[摘要]生活發(fā)生不幸時(shí),我們常常會(huì)關(guān)上心門(mén);世界不僅沒(méi)能慰藉我們,反倒使我們更加消沉。既然如此,何不嘗試打開(kāi)心門(mén),擁抱生活中的各種可能,請(qǐng)記住不是生活選擇了你,而你可以選擇想要的生活。
1. Breathe into pain 直面痛苦 Whenever a painful situation arises in your life, try to embrace it instead of running away or trying to mask the hurt. When the sadness strikes, take a deep breath and lean into it. When we run away from sadness that’s unfolding in our lives, it gets stronger and more real. We take an emotion that’s fleeting and make it a solid event, instead of something that passes through us. 當(dāng)生活中出現(xiàn)痛苦的事情時(shí),別再逃跑或隱藏痛苦,試著擁抱它吧;當(dāng)悲傷來(lái)襲時(shí),試著深呼吸,然后直面它。如果我們一味逃避生活中的悲傷,悲傷只會(huì)變得更強(qiáng)烈更真實(shí)——悲傷原本只是稍縱即逝的情緒,我們卻固執(zhí)地耿耿于懷。 By utilizing our breath we soften our experiences. If we dam them up, our lives will stagnate, but when we keep them flowing, we allow more newness and greater experiences to blossom. 深呼吸能減緩我們的感受。屏住呼吸,生活停滯;呼出呼吸,更多新奇與經(jīng)歷又將拉開(kāi)序幕。 2. Embrace the uncomfortable 擁抱不安 We all know what that twinge of anxiety feels like. We know how fear feels in our bodies: the tension in our necks, the tightness in our stomachs, etc. We can practice leaning into these feelings of discomfort and let them show us where we need to go. 我們都經(jīng)歷過(guò)焦灼的煎熬感,也都感受過(guò)恐懼造成的生理反應(yīng):脖子僵硬、胃酸翻騰。其實(shí),我們有能力面對(duì)這些痛苦的感受,從中領(lǐng)悟到出路。 The initial impulse is to run away — to try and suppress these feelings by not acknowledging them. When we do this, we close ourselves off to the parts of our lives that we need to experience most. The next time you have this feeling of being truly uncomfortable, do yourself a favor and lean into the feeling. Act in spite of the fear. 我們的第一反應(yīng)總是逃避——以為否認(rèn)不安情緒的存在就能萬(wàn)事大吉,可這也恰好妨礙了我們經(jīng)歷最需要的生活體驗(yàn)。下次感到不安時(shí),不管有多害怕,也請(qǐng)?jiān)囍赂颐鎸?duì)吧。 3. Ask your heart what it wants 傾聽(tīng)內(nèi)心 We’re often confused at the next step to take, making pros and cons lists until our eyes bleed and our brains are sore. Instead of always taking this approach, what if we engaged a new part of ourselves that isn’t usually involved in the decision making process? 我們常對(duì)未來(lái)猶疑不定,反復(fù)考慮利弊直到身心俱疲。與其一味顧慮重重,不如從局外人的角度看待決策之事。 I know we’ve all felt decisions or actions that we had to take simply due to our “gut” impulses: when asked, we can’t explain the reasons behind doing so — just a deep knowing that it had to get done. This instinct is the part of ourselves we’re approaching for answers. 其實(shí)很多決定或行動(dòng)都是我們一念之間的結(jié)果:要是追問(wèn)原因的話,恐怕我們自己也道不清說(shuō)不明,只是感到直覺(jué)如此罷了。而這種直覺(jué)恰好是我們探索結(jié)果的潛在自我。 To start this process, take few deep breaths then ask, "Heart, what decision should I make here? What action feels the most right?" 開(kāi)始前先做幾次深呼吸,問(wèn)自己:“內(nèi)心認(rèn)為該做什么樣的決定呢?覺(jué)得采取哪個(gè)方案最恰當(dāng)?” See what comes up, then engage and evaluate the outcome. 看看自己的內(nèi)心反應(yīng)如何,然后全力以赴、靜待結(jié)果吧。 |
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